The best compliment I have ever received

I was speaking to a friend recently. Nothing special, just a mundane conversation about studying and exams and out of nowhere this is what she says:

“One day, I’m gonna tell my kids about you and tell them they should aspire to be like you”

I was taken so off guard because this was not like any compliment I had ever received before. Mind you, we are both seventeen. It is incredibly rare for us to think about anyone with such depth. It wasn’t a shallow compliment like the ones we hear on a day to day basis.

Her words were so personal and wasting no time, I started to tear up. You might think I’m being dramatic but let me just give you a little backstory that will explain why this meant so much to me.

For years, I have been working tirelessly to become the best version of myself. To become a motivated, passionate and hard-working person. To become an empathetic, compassionate, understanding and charitable person. To be mature and avoid situations that involve gossip and slander. However, in my mind I was failing. No matter how much I tried, I could never bring myself to portray that perfect image of myself except to one or two extremely close people who knew exactly who I was on the inside.

This was a period of self doubt and of low self esteem. There was no way that I could become this person if I had no confidence as confidence is one of the main characteristics of this person I was trying so hard to be. It takes a great deal of confidence to be completely true to yourself.

In our society, it is terribly easy to get caught up in trying to fit in; but why do we need a world where everyone is the same? People should be aspiring to stand out. Not by doing crazy things like dangerous online challenges (tide pod challenge I’m looking at you) but by being yourself. You hear it time and time again but it really is that simple.

And that is why I will remember my friend’s compliment forever. It immediately filled me with heaps of confidence and truly made me feel special. It was the beginning of my journey to get back to being self-loving, allowing me to start working on being that person I aspire to be. A person who does my own thing and isn’t afraid to be different.

So go out this week and find someone to give a truly personal compliment. Show them how much you admire them. And let me know what the best compliment YOU have ever received is. 


5 thoughts on “The best compliment I have ever received

  1. I love this, RQ!! 💕 A beautiful and inspiring post and I thank you!
    You are spot on…with your aspirations, your perceptiveness, your sensitivity to what is real and true. You have a strength of mind and heart that will take you FAR, as it has already. Bravo! I am grateful to your friend for being present enough to notice what you offer…Who You Truly Are. These reminders keep us going, encourage us. I just have one question😊…one I have learned to ask myself(!)
    When you look inside and see all that you aspire to be…when you look really really closely, with total self love and honesty…
    Do you see that you actually ARE a success in every way…simply because you are aware and doing all that you can on this path of discovery?
    I think you are just where you need to be…you are exactly “right” for this moment.
    And you know deep down that it is true (it just feels rather presumptuous at first because we elect to believe we are never “enough”.)
    I’m here to tell you…
    You need nothing more from the “outside” to complete you, to assure you, to make things better. You may always be inspired by external things…but it is Who You Are within that is the source of all that you bring to this world.
    I am very grateful to know someone like you is out there being the “best version of herself”. The only “failure” is not to try.

    I’ll end with one of my favorite quotes😀
    “If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you.
    You may have a fresh start any moment you choose,
    for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.”
    Mary Pickford

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    1. Thank you so much for your very well thought out comment. Your comment was inspiring in itself and it is very true that just being aware of what you need to do to be a better person and working towards it indeed makes you a better person. It is important to always remind ourselves that no one will do the right thing 100% of the time.


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